When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.” – Paulo Coelho The state of being healthy, comfortable and happy. Children’s wellbeing is, without doubt, at the centre of the Early Years Foundation Stage.
A child’s level of well-being is intrinsically linked to their levels of involvement and motivation to learn. Being happy includes managing their emotions and understanding the impact it can have on their daily lives if regulation is not addressed. Regulating your Child’s emotions is becoming increasingly difficult. We are asked regularly by parents How they can get help. So let’s look at ways you can help your child. “Emotional regulation is not about suppressing feelings, but teaching children to understand and express them in healthy ways.” This emphasises the importance of guiding children in recognising and managing their emotions effectively. Supporting young children in developing self-regulation skills while maintaining your own calm can be challenging but rewarding. Here are some tips:
Model Calmness.
Children learn by observing. Demonstrating calmness during stressful situations teaches them how to manage their emotions.
Establish Routines
Consistent daily routines provide a sense of security and predictability, helping children regulate their emotions.
Teach Emotional Vocabulary
Help children identify and express their feelings by using simple emotions words. This can empower them to communicate rather than act out. Use Visual Aids Charts or pictures showcasing different emotions can help children recognise and understand their feelings.
Practice Deep Breathing
Teach breathing exercises to help children calm down. Simple techniques like “smell the flowers, blow out the candles” can be effective.
Create a Calm Down Space
Designate a safe area with comforting items (like soft toys or books) where children can go to regain composure.
Validate Feelings
Acknowledge their feelings without judgment. Let them know it’s okay to feel upset or angry.
Use Positive Reinforcement
Praise children when they successfully use self-regulation strategies, reinforcing those behaviors.
For De-escalating Yourself and Staying Calm
Take Deep Breaths
Practice deep breathing to regain composure when you feel overwhelmed.
Pause Before Responding
Give yourself a moment to assess the situation before reacting, allowing for a more thoughtful response.
Use Positive Self-Talk
Remind yourself that it’s normal for children to have emotions and that you can handle the situation.
Seek Support
Talk to a partner or friend about your feelings. Sharing your experiences can provide relief and new perspectives.
Practice Self-Care
Ensure you’re taking care of your own mental and physical health. Adequate sleep, nutrition, and exercise can improve your resilience.
By implementing these strategies, you can create a supportive environment that fosters self-regulation in children while maintaining your own emotional balance. More importantly you need to make sure as an adult you are regulated before you attempt to regulate a child.
Julie Robinson BA Hons PGCE .EYP
Mini Minds Matter UK
Owner Eagley School House Nurseries